Happy Tuesday beauties!
This week we had an awesome guest on the podcast, Sara Wiles who spoke about overcoming the fear of "needing to neglect myself in order to succeed". Today I want to briefly dive into this lie with you, as I know so many of us have felt this way at one point or another.
Here is my word of wisdom for you ---> You can't pour from an empty pitcher and you must put your own oxygen mask on FIRST before you can help someone else.
You've probably heard this term thrown around many times before. But let me tell you sister, it is TRUE. You can not show up as the best version of you if you are overworked and neglecting your own needs. Oftentimes us ambitious lady bosses feel we have to do it all and put everything and everyone before us if we want to push ahead. But this is the furthest from the truth. The more you give into the needs of everyone else around you, the less impact you will actually make.
Let me share with you a few steps to making sure you don't find yourself falling into the people-pleasing trap:
1. ALWAYS put your needs first. If you are not rested, fed, hydrated, etc. you will not be showing up as your best self. Fill your pitcher first if you want to show up as your best for your current and future clients. NO ifs, ands or buts.
2. The way your clients treat you is a reflection of how you view yourself. Do they expect an email response at 11pm on a Monday? If they do, most likely this is because you have modeled this behavior at some point in the relationship. Oftentimes I want to return client messages on the weekends and then I remember, I need to be an example for them. If I start returning weekend messages, they will later expect it. This also does not model good boundaries for them if they have a service based business that closes up shop on the weekends as well. I model behavior in hopes that it will encourage healthy boundaries in my clients current and future relationships.
3. Each time you feel your confidence plummeting and tell yourself you are disappointing your clients, ask yourself "would I expect that from someone in that situation"? Most likely you will say NO way. Take that and HOLD ONTO IT.
Quick example: You are feeling pressured to respond to that 11pm email or else you think your client will be disappointed in you. Ask yourself: would I expect my coach to respond back to me at 11pm? If the answer is NO, than REFRAIN. Don't do it. It's as easy as that!
Boundaries are there for a reason. They are to keep us and the people around us safe. Remember each and every time you feel the need to cross that you are a living example for others. How do you want others to treat themselves? Act in that way!
Did this hit home today? Ever feel like you're trying to please everyone while neglecting your own sanity? Comment below and share with me! If think you might be ready to get some support with this, shoot an email to me at email@example.com and we will chat about some ways I can support you in getting confident in what is already within you.
If you want to hear more of my morning discussion, make sure to head on over to my YouTube channel to check out the video I did on this topic as well!
And catch Sara's episode all on this topic over on the Podcast HERE!!!
Blessings + Abundance,